Confessions

I have some confessions to make, Friends.  What better place to confess than on the world wide web (enter sarcasm here)?  Really though, a few things are on my heart, so bear with me as I open up and keep it real this evening . . .

I'm bummed this weekend and my heart is heavy, down-trodden, if you will.  I have a bit of a bad attitude.  I am discouraged.  Like I said, I'm keeping it real.

This weekend was supposed to be an amazing time.  Mom and I had the opportunity to go to a Women's Conference in Tulsa with a great group of ladies from my parent's church.  It is a fun group of girls that has welcomed me with open arms, and I was looking forward to spending time with them and getting a fresh Word from the Lord.  And who doesn't want to get away for a bit?!

Friday started off well, and we made it to our destination, laughing all the way.  My friend Nina and I were even able to make a Hope Link visit to a sweet boy named Joshua!  Can I tell you how much I LOVE doing those visits?  It was very sweet, and I left smiling.

As the day and evening went on, my head started hurting badly.  I'm having some blood pressure issues lately and my high BP was making me feel awful.  I did my best to focus, stay calm and keep my heart-rate low during our Conference time.  It wasn't easy though because I SO wanted to get into it!  I SO wanted to get a fresh word from the Lord.  I SO wanted to hear something life-changing, something meant completely for ME!  I really don't feel selfish in confessing that - I just was expecting something to be shared that was meant just for my heart; for a connection of some sort to be made.  I was looking forward to it.  I needed to hear something just for me.

I did walk away Friday night with something that I felt God had for me . . .

"When God says 'Go Forward!', don't even think about standing still". God has been calling me to move forward for a while.  I haven't been exactly sure what He was telling me to go forward from, but hearing this confirmed that indeed my Father wants me to move forward.  And then, God laid it on my heart what I needed to walk forward from; what I needed to leave behind.  It's sin that I've carried too long.  And just like that, God confirmed to me that I needed to walk forward and leave that sin behind.  I made a choice to do just that; walk away from my sin and lay it at His feet once and for all. 

Even with God giving me that on Friday night, I walked away tired, discouraged and feeling sick.  I am not ignorant to Satan's schemes. I know that I was under spiritual attack (as I'm sure many others were), but that was so disheartening to me. Couldn't I just have one weekend free of attacks and hardships?  Admittedly, I'm sure things seem worse to me since I don't feel well (my BP is still very high).

All weekend I was reminded of the loss of my Ellie Kate.  People we met.  Friends I ran into that follow our story.  I had jealousy and anger over a woman who shared at the conference about her grandchild with a behavior disorder.  I wish MY girls had a behavior disorder rather than being born with something terminal.  I wish my daughter wasn't dead.  I wish both of my daughters could be dancing like the little girl in the video that was shown on the big screen.  I wish my daughter was alive and was able to twirl and dance for beautiful pictures like my friends.  But, that isn't what God has chosen for me, and sometimes the realization of that is just plain hard.  

So, here I am this evening, stuck in bed because of my blood pressure, looking over my notes from the weekend.  I didn't get the major revelation that I was hoping for.  I didn't get the connection I was desperately seeking.  I didn't get to stay the entire weekend with my momma (because of being sick), as we had planned.  I'm brooding over my sin, brooding over my loss, brooding over my hurt.  That's just me being honest with you.  I have no words of wisdom or encouragement for you this weekend.  I am so sorry about that, because I truly love allowing God to breathe life into others through the words that He lays on my heart to share (believe me, it's from Him and not from me!).  Tonight, I have nothing.

Maybe this is a good thing - being at the bottom of yourself physically, mentally and spiritually.  I think that's where God wants us a lot of the time, even though it isn't a popular place to be.  It isn't a fun place to be either, but I know many of you are there tonight, just like me.

Ryan

It's Her Birthday!

It's Lucy's 2nd birthday!  Can you believe it?  Our Lucy Belle turned two years old today, and I couldn't be more proud of our girl.  It seems like yesterday that my water broke and two hours later, we had a baby girl being whisked off to the NICU.  We were uncertain of what was to come then and yet, when we first laid eyes on that petite blonde baby, we were full of hope and anticipation.  The same is true to this day.

Lucy Belle means "Beautiful Light", and Lucy truly is a light for me.  I had no idea how much of a blessing, how much of an encouragement, how much of a life-line that Lucy would be to me.  She shines light into the dark places of our hearts.  She reminds us of the beauty that comes from being broken.  Truly, I don't know what Mike and I would do without Lucy - especially during this time of loss.  Lucy gives us hope and she reminds us of Ellie Kate in almost everything that she does.  It's an indescribable blessing to us.

Today was filled with appointments, all of which went rather well.  The doctors are a bit concerned with Lucy's rapid weight gain.  She's gained two pounds in one month!  Don't get me wrong, I LOVE seeing a little chunkiness on those cute thighs. She even has more energy because of that extra weight!  But, we don't want the rapid gain to become a pattern, and with the metabolic issues coming along with NKH, we need to keep an eye on it.

Little Lucy also has had a major increase in seizure activity, numbering about 20 seizures a day that we see (we know there are many that we don't notice or that are not visible) .  As you know, NKH is just such a mystery, and the doctors truly don't know what causes the increase in seizures.  Has it been her ear troubles?  Is it her gut?  Are her metabolic issues causing a problem in breaking down the anti-seizure meds?  Is it progression of NKH?  Is it because of her rapid weight gain?  No one knows, like I said.  All we can do is rule things out, which is why we checked her glycine levels today.  Those results may give us a bit of direction.  We are also upping some of her anti-seizures yet again in hopes of slowing down the seizure monster.  Please pray that the seizures will slow down and leave little Lu Lu alone.

We are also still having to use pain medicine to help with Lucy's crying spells.  These "crying spells" are just unexplainable, which is maddening.  Is it seizure activity?  Sometimes, yes.

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In closing tonight, I leave you with Isaiah 35, which was given to Lucy and our family for this coming year.  How faithful is our God, even when we are not!!  

The Ransomed Shall Return - Isaiah 35, ESV

1 The wilderness and the dry land shall be glad;

the desert shall rejoice and blossom like the crocus;

2it shall blossom abundantly

and rejoice with joy and singing.

The glory of Lebanon shall be given to it,

the majesty of Carmel and Sharon.

They shall see the glory of the Lord,

the majesty of our God.

3 Strengthen the weak hands,

and make firm the feeble knees.

4Say to those who have an anxious heart,

“Be strong; fear not!

Behold, your God

will come with vengeance,

with the recompense of God.

He will come and save you.”

5 Then the eyes of the blind shall be opened,

and the ears of the deaf unstopped;

6 then shall the lame man leap like a deer,

and the tongue of the mute sing for joy.

For waters break forth in the wilderness,

and streams in the desert;

7 the burning sand shall become a pool,

and the thirsty ground springs of water;

in the haunt of jackals, where they lie down,

the grass shall become reeds and rushes.

8 And a highway shall be there,

and it shall be called the Way of Holiness;

the unclean shall not pass over it.

It shall belong to those who walk on the way;

even if they are fools, they shall not go astray.

9No lion shall be there,

nor shall any ravenous beast come up on it;

they shall not be found there,

but the redeemed shall walk there.

10 And the ransomed of the Lord shall return

and come to Zion with singing;

everlasting joy shall be upon their heads;

they shall obtain gladness and joy,

and sorrow and sighing shall flee away.

The Wonderfully Made Life - Welcome!

So, this is it!  I've finally started the blog.  It's been SEVEN years in the making with Carepages, emails, posts, etc.  We are finally ready as a family; I am finally ready as an individual, to do this!  It wouldn't be possible without your encouragement and without the help of my good friend, Allison Dalke.  Yay for a blog!!

And, you know what's cool??  We are currently adding ALL SEVEN YEARS worth of Carepage updates to the blog!  Soon you will be able to access each and every entry we've shared.  It may take a bit, but we will work hard so that you can see our story from the beginning!  I'm super excited about this as our entire life is evidence that God is truly with His people, and that's something I really want you to realize! 

The Wonderfully Made Life is our life.  It's the ups and downs, the roller coaster and the twists and turns of our crazy life.  It's the life God has called us to; the life God designed for us, and He's working it all together for His glory AND for our good.  That's what He's promised us - life abundant and full here on earth, despite what life may throw our way (including special-needs, illness and death!). This is the place I will share my heart, share our stories, and share our experiences.  It's my diary, of sorts.  The Diary of a Special Needs Mom! 

Friends,  I invite you to come along for the ride.  Join us for the craziness of our journey.  Sign up to receive the updates, much like you did with Carepages, although this will be much more simple and easier to share with your friends!  Speaking of that, be sure to share The Wonderfully Made Life with your friends!  I know this is what God has called me to do and I know there are families out there who need to be reached and need to be reminded that they are NOT alone.  Spread the love!  

More to come soon, I promise.  Until then, love well, serve often and pray much!  

Ryan
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Birthday Blessings

Ohmygoodness, you know how to make a girl feel loved!  Lucy had a BALL at her second birthday party this last Saturday!  I can't thank you all enough for the sweet birthday wishes, prayers and messages of love.  Thank you too for all who were able to come and celebrate with us!

The look on Lucy's face when we sang HBD to her was PRICELESS.  She KNEW it was about her, and she was just thrilled.  She loved her tutu as well, and didn't even try to take her hair bow out!  Ellie Kate would be so proud:).

Our cake was done by a new friend, Cheryl.  Cheryl is a cake decorator and baker here in OKC.  She is a Believer, and we were connected to Cheryl through the non-profit Icing Smiles.  Icing Smiles provides cakes to terminally ill children and their siblings - how cool is that?!  And we had delicious cupcakes done by my friend Alecia Hoerner, who also is a baker and is preparing to move to Haiti with her family in just a few months.  We were SO BLESSED by the gifts of these cakes!!  They made the party:)!

Saturday was pretty much perfect, all the way around.  When I had prepared for the party earlier in the week, my heart felt sad.  I was sad that Ellie Kate wasn't there to celebrate with us.  I was sad that I didn't spend more time with Ellie at Lucy's last birthday party (which seems just like last week).  All sorts of thoughts ran through my mind.  But, once I saw how happy Lu Lu was that day, and how much fun she had, even when we got her dressed that day, all of my sorrow melted away.  I did of course miss Ellie Kate, but our hearts were light and we were all able to celebrate, laugh and love.

You loved us so well too - the gifts, cards and notes were just precious, and are things that we will treasure always.  I already have the cards in Lucy's "Precious Box".  And WOW - I have just been blown-away, I have been touched, I have been humbled by the SEVERAL DONATIONS TO KNH RESEARCH that have been made in Lucy and Ellie Kate's name!  I don't think I could hope for any better gift in my life!

Now, you may remember that my blog will launch on Lucy's birthday, which is still true!  Lucy's actual birthday is Thursday, September 26th, and the blog will launch sometime that day.  Be sure to watch for it!  As a reminder, we will stop posting on Carepages, and use the blog instead.  It's easier to use, easier to navigate and easier to share.  Don't worry though - we will never close our our Carepage, and you will actually be able to read each entry straight from the blog!  I can't wait for you to see it.

Thank you for loving us, Friends.  Thank you for celebrating Lucy in a big and special way!